When Should You Not Swear

While there are a tremendous amount of reasons why anyone should act in one way or another, there are also a lot of reasons why swearing itself can be a bad thing. People have tended to see it as a very vulgar issue, and when you consider the general taboo of it as well there can be some real reasons why some instantly shy away from it. However, just because some people doesn’t like it, does it really mean it is all that bad? In short, yes it does. Take a look at some of the following so you can better understand why you should not be in the habit of swearing as thought it were acceptable in daily life.
What Does It Mean For Others?
When people swear, you have to think about what is usually going on. Swearing can occur for multiple reasons, however, it is typically the norm for swearing to happen when an individual is upset or outraged for one reason or another. The fact of the matter is when you have someone swear they are not just finding a way to express their frustration and vent, but they are also expressing their frustration to others and putting negative energy into the environment. If an individual is swearing around others at work, family, or especially children, then that negative energy can and will be picked up and absorbed and before anyone realizes it moods can get worse and stress levels can elevate as well.

Conveys Unintelligence
While anyone can curse at any time without having a specific intelligence level, there are also some studies that show intelligent people will curse less than not. And, even if the debate has not yet been settled for whether or not intelligence is correlated with cursing, there is at least still a stigma with many people regarding being unintelligent and cursing. The fact is you will find people who attempt to curse and swear to show their emotions, but what it also means is that they do not have the proper vocabulary to be able to fully express themself. It is in that scenario that they are more likely to curse as a result. And, whether or not swearing and cursing does truly correlate with a lower IQ and intelligence level, the fact is many people think it does. In other words, even if you are smart then by swearing you can appear less educated and less intelligent in general.

How Can You Show You Are Truly Upset?
One important thing to do in general is to make sure that you are able to show others you are upset. This isn’t a primary function in life, but it is a critical part of the human experience. Whether this is your employer, your coworkers, your loved ones, or others, if you are able to convey your emotions then you can show others how much you are able to be upset at a certain time and how serious something is to you. The fact of the matter is when you consider the point of view of others, you can see how tricky this can become. If you are always known to curse and to become hot headed for even the slightest of issues, then how will you be able to use an expletive when it is needed? If you are always swearing, then people will never know when you are extremely fired up and serious and when you are just acting normal. You cannot express your frustration by using explitives if you always use explitives and cursing in day to day chatter.

It Just Sounds Troublesome
When you think about children in general then you already know you do not want to raise them in the wrong way. The last thing you want to do is to teach them negative words. This isn’t because the words are wrong, but rather it is because when you think about the rest of society you can actually have your kids be judged just by swearing even if those children don’t even know what the words mean. Regardless of whether or not you want your children to swear, you should at least start to consider the fact that everyone needs a way to express themself even when they wish to express negative feelings. This is the same exact thing for children and bad words. You may not want to believe your innocent and little children are capable of negative emotions, but you also have to understand that they are going to be upset at some point in their life. It is up to you to be able to help them so they don’t resort to foul language.

It Could Mean Something Else Is Going On
If you think about the reason or reasons that kids and young people will start to swear, it an usually mean something else is occuring. There are potential underlying reasons that anyone could pick up swearing and cursing out of nowhere, and if you aren’t careful then you could start to do it yourself for those same exact reasons. Consider the fact that many people and young ones start picking up swearing because they are simply looking for attention and use it as a cry for help, and you could see how there could be a problem under the surface. When you also throw in the fact that swearing means you could also be uncomfortable and just trying to fit in, then you could actually be dealing with some major problems other than just using rude language.

Obviously there are some reasons why people would want to swear or curse and there could be some times when it is justified. In fact, when you consider the first ammendment and remember that people have the right to say whatever they would like, then it actually starts to make sense why some people may swear. However, just because some people can swear doesn’t mean that they should. Keep these few lessons in mind as well as more to know that swearing should not be the first means of communication.

Why Do We Swear?

To know thyself is powerful. So with over 15,000 words in the human language, just why is it that the average human’s vocabulary consists of 80-90 swear words a day? Well, as it turns out, there are several theories behind why we select swear words over other words, including, it just feels good!

To understand the psychology behind what swear words are, why they offend, and, of course, why we use them, please read on.What Are Swear Words?

From America to Germany to Australia, and so on, each country has its own set of swear words. For a word to qualify as a swear word, it must have the ability to offend. In other words, it crosses the line into taboo territory. There are a number of taboo subjects, some which are universal across cultural lines, including death, excrement, disease and, of course, sex. As a general rule, since these topics are off limits, words related to them aren’t meant to be spoken either.

What Makes Swear Words Bad?

The context in which we use swear words play a huge role in whether it is seen as offensive or not. For example, among friends, you may use swear words casually or in a jokingly manner, but the same words spoken in a school setting can be offensive.

Profanity is also reflected differently among cultures. For example, Germans are pretty relaxed with nudity and sex, so sexually themed swear words have the power to make them wince. As a result, German swearing is kept more down to earth and excrement oriented.

High and holy things present another area where people can be offended, when used out of context, also known as blasphemy. For instance, Jesus Christ, hell, and God are fine when used in a holy service; however, when used in anger, they can become cutting.

Why Do We Swear?

There are many reasons why a person may choose to swear including it’s cool. Some other reasons people swear include:

It’s Natural

Sometimes, swearing is a natural part of our speech development. In fact, we typically learn the difference between taboo words and normal words during early childhood development. We also learn that not all swear words hold the same intensity. For example, we learn that S*#@! is a more intense word than crap! Eventually, we also learn that it may be alright to use a swear word in one social context, but not another.

Emotional Release

Swearing, quite often, is a emotional reaction. When we become angry, frustrated or surprised, swearing provides and emotional release. According to psychology, sometimes we get pumped by emotional energy as a result of the situations we experience.

This excess energy motivates us to take certain actions in order to sustain our mental health. Swearing helps release this excess energy, as the mind considers it an effective way to rid excess energy. And people don’t just swear as a result of bad emotions, they also swear when they become excited or happy.

So swearing is a technique the mind uses to release excess energy throughout the day, so it can maintain balance.

Pain Endurance

Swearing increases the body’s ability to endure pain. Just think about your last instance of being injured, whether you stumbled out of the bed in the middle of the night and stubbed your toe or accidentally sliced your finger with your new knife, your first reaction was probably to swear, which most likely increased your tolerance for pain.

One study showed that dismissal activities, such as swearing, activates the same areas in the brain associated with physical pain, and this is why individuals who swear when they are emotionally distressed tend to feel better.

Group Consensus

Between friends, swearing can be used to create a vocabulary, break social taboos and bond people together. For example, typical insults may be used among friends as terms of endearment or to show group belonging.

To Show Identity

Some people swear because they want to get a certain identity. For example, women may want to appear less fragile, while men may want to appear more tough. These needs can motivate individuals to swear because they believe that such actions can assist them with their goal. Sometimes hurt people want to keep people at a distance, so they may swear to try to keep people away or to protect themselves.

Abuse, Insult and Exclusion

If you want to insult someone, swear words usually get the point across. But they don’t always have to be swear words to offend. For example, a simple “you’re stupid!” can also drive home the mean factor.

Comedy and Emphasis

Sometimes stand-up comedians may use swear words as a secret ingredient to get laughs. Other times, people may use a swear word to add more emphasis to a statement. For example, “you look f****** amazing!” In other words, swear words can be used to add urgency or emotion to otherwise timid statements.

How Swearing Affects Us

Swearing can occur with any emotion and encourage negative or positive effects. Studies suggest use of taboo words that are not in anger, such as storytelling or joking etc., are neutral or produce positive results.

Before determining swearing as harmful, more meaningful information about swearing needs to be obtained by asking what communication goal it achieves. Swear words can achieve a number of possible outcomes. For instance, it can be used for humor, stress management or even as a substitute for physical aggression. Recent studies even show that swearing is associated with enhanced pain tolerance.

However, when used negatively, swear words can alter your brain structure, which can ultimately affect your mood and your life in a bad way. In fact, studies show that rude words lead to negative thinking and performance, and in some cases, can even cause depression, lack of self confidence, lack of motivation, certain diseases and illnesses, and more (1). So, choose your words wisely.


Psychology Today. (2012). The Most Dangerous Word in the World. Retrieved from https://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/words-can-change-your-brain/201208/the-most-dangerous-word-in-the-world

Why is Swearing Bad

Today’s modern culture is riddled with computer and phone use at an almost 24 hour rate. These new smart phones have basically made face-to-face conversations, hand written letters, reading books, and peaceful solitude completely obsolete and out-of-touch practices. Teenagers do not know how to talk to one another, and honestly some adults are not helping the situation. Because our society is losing the art of communication and actually speaking to one another, our language is becoming less and less gentle and eloquent, and more harsh. Swearing is bad because it takes away from expanding one’s mind and learning how to articulate themselves.

When you use swear words, it can be for one of three reasons. Number 1: it is meant to put particular emphasis on a certain situation; or number 2: a person cannot think of another word to use and use it as filler; or number 3: the person thinks it is cool to swear and makes them look like adults (somewhat the same reasoning behind smoking some might say…). Using swear words start off slowly and then grows until you do not even notice that you are using them in simple everyday language. As swearing becomes a habit, good practices start to slide and complacency takes hold.

A Little Too Much
1) Swearing, in the right context, can put the right kind of emphasis on whatever topic of conversation is going on. But, we need to be careful in how much we are using them. There is no need to cram in five swear words in one sentence. One is quite enough to get the point across. A swear once in a while is not detrimental, just use it cautiously and be aware of who you are around when you are about to swear. You want to be complimented on your speech and how you talk to people. The last thing you would want is to have someone tell you how foul of a mouth you have. That is not attractive, nor is it complimentary to your work place. Know who you are around and where it is appropriate to slacken on your language.

A Loss of Vocabulary
2) We have all been in situations where we are caught up in conversations and all start talking like the people around us. Some things we say around friends end up becoming habits and then they become hard to break. Sometimes, we steer towards using swear words because they are words that everyone knows and everyone understands what they mean. What I mean by “a loss of vocabulary” I mean that swear words end up being the filler words that can easily be replaced by more educated adjectives. Instead of using the little swear words like “c…” and “s…”, use other more attractive words like “exceedingly”, “immense”, “unfortunate”, “tremendous”, etc to express your statement. Those words sound much better than a four word curse. Honestly, the “f” word is not a suitable adjective to use in everyday life. Use better sounding words in general to fill your sentences like “uncontrollable”, “absolutely”, “resoundingly”, etc. Really the sky is the limit if you just start to expand your knowledge. You will sound smarter, actually learn more words, and you might be able to articulate your sentence better when you use words other than swear words. It is a hard habit to shake once you have started, but it can be corrected with patience and focus.

“Adulting” Too Soon
3) When we were all little, the adults tended to shy away from swearing around the little kids because little kids should not be using that kind of language. When kids hear these words, they associate them with adults and doing things they normally are not allowed to do. So naturally, swearing can be looked at as being “cool” and “adult-like” because you are doing something adults do. Think about it though. When you swear, you sound like everybody else and that is not a good thing. You are using unattractive language and it is not very appealing to many people. It is not mature, nor is it something that want to hear all the time. Use your “good” language practices all the time instead of just during certain situations. Do not tailor your language only in front of certain people or where you happen to be. Learn to tailor your language so that you sound like an actual adult when speaking to other people.

When we swear, whether it is to ourselves or to other people during normal conversations, we practicing bad habits and begin to become complacent. We are using language without actually knowing how to use it. It is a use-or-lose type of skill to have. When people get lazy with language, it leads directly back to the common tongue of swear words, slurred speech, or downright confusing dialect. It is bad to swear because it does not put you in a good light. It is common, inappropriate, unlady-like, not macho, and sometimes very rude.

As a society, it is important to teach kids at a young age how to act like proper adults and use language that is not only acceptable, but suitable in every situation. Teach them language and expressions, do not let them be lazy and resort to the easy way of descriptions and actions. Swearing does not teach anything. It is not impressive to be a fouled mouth member of society. Know what you are saying and who you are saying it to. Be better than the swear.